I recently sent for and received the packet of information surrounding the parole revocation of the man who raped me in 1987. I knew it had to involve some sort of assault/battery, or at least some sort of ‘physical’ crime. I ended up getting more information than I thought I would. It’s taken a couple of days to be able to write about it. Even 25 years after the rape, I still have physical reactions to most things that involve him, and at the same time, I need to be informed of what is going on so I can do the best I can to protest any and all future parole eligibility reviews. No matter where he happens to be (in or out of prison), he will be serving the sentence for raping me until the year 2047. Thirty-five more years.
The first thing that hit me when I read the information about why he is back in custody is that a woman actually married this guy while he was in prison for a rape conviction. I knew about that when he was first released on parole, but it still blows my mind. Granted, he can lie very well; it’s how he got to me. But what makes a woman even consider marrying someone who has a criminal history, is STILL in prison, and will be in prison or on parole until 2047? That’s not a good background check. How can someone trust a man who has only known her from the other side of bars?
Numbnuts is 53 years old now, and his first adult conviction in December 1976 was when he was 18 years old, for forgery. He was given a 5 year sentence, and at some point was put on parole- which was revoked when he was convicted of burglary (while on parole). He then got a 12 year sentence for kidnapping, and was released on parole in 1985. In April of 1986, he was convicted of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon. He was released on parole in December of 1986; on January 10, 1987, he raped, sodomized, and beat me for six hours- and changed his plea to guilty part way through the trial. He got a 60 year sentence (in a plea bargain) for aggravated sexual assault with a deadly weapon. During the arrest for my rape, he was also shot by police, and had assaulted one of the officers who was first on the scene. Then, he gets out in January 2010, on parole again. In the summer of 2011 he assaulted a man (a misdemeanor in Texas; a felony if against a woman), but was able to stay out of prison. In January of 2012, he was being considered for a lesser degree of supervision…within days of being notified about this (and protesting the idea), he had a warrant issued for what I now know was a domestic violence charge against his wife (I was initially told it was a ‘parole violation’). He plead no contest. He didn’t try to stay out of prison. At least three times, he’s committed crimes while ON parole. Twice, he did not fight the charges.
I had originally been introduced to Numbnuts by his sister, whose baby I took care of 5-6 days a week while she worked. The introduction was brief, and very generic. I’d gone to see her about cleaning my apartment as I’d just been released from the hospital where I’d been for 10 days for a back injury. I’d been moved to a new apartment by coworkers while I was in the hospital ( the move had been planned before the hospitalization, and I was ‘stuck’ with needing to move out), and needed help getting the ‘old’ place cleaned. She agreed, and Numbnuts first got a look at me. During the time right after the rape, and during the trial, his sister helped the prosecution. In the packet of information, it says that he was again living with her, and was actually arrested in her home in January 2012. While she hasn’t been a part of my life since 1987, it still stung that she’d house this monster. She knew what he’d done to me. She was a part of the trial, testifying against her brother. I nearly lost my life going to get her son (part of the lie he told me needed me to go get the baby because of an emergency). Blood is thick, blah, blah, blah… Career criminal is a deal breaker in my book, even with family.
He also has step-grandsons. As a registered sex offender, I’m not sure how he’s able to have contact with those kids, unless the restrictions depend on the age of the victim he’s convicted of assaulting. Maybe he’s not a risk to kids; I wouldn’t let my kids near a convicted sex offender, regardless of the age of the victim. Would. Not. Happen. But his brilliant wife, with her outstanding judgement and decision making, allowed the relationship with the kids. The two grandsons wrote notes to the Pardons and Paroles Board asking for their ‘grandpa’ to be allowed to come home because he was a ‘good man’…(where they could witness more domestic violence against their grandmother; no word on how often they’re with her- or where their parents are). The notes were very ‘scripted’, and I’d doubt the kids came up with the content…even if the notes were in their writing.
Mrs. Numbnuts also has a letter in the packet of information, saying that the neighbors must have called and they’ve got it out for Numbnuts. It’s all someone else’s fault. I wonder about her police record. I have no information that she even has any record whatsoever, but the lack of personal responsibility sounds pretty sociopathic to me. Just sayin’.
The next time Numbnuts is eligible for a parole review is in three years. There is no ‘mandatory’ release date for about 18 more years. He’d be 71 years old. He won’t be off of parole (or out of prison – whichever happens) until he’s 88 years old. And I still don’t think he could make it. If he’s too gimpy to hurt someone else, he’d be a suicide candidate. He gets ‘good time’ shaved off of his sentences- he is successful as a prisoner. He craps out in society. He’s a danger, and I would be horribly saddened, but not shocked, to hear that he murdered someone. That was the ‘end’ planned the day I was raped, but I got away after 6 hours when he passed out in my bed. I’ve blogged more about the details, so will leave it at that for now. But it was life-altering hell.
I’m still mulling all of this around in my head. The level of dysfunction that results in a Numbnuts ( or a Mrs. Numbnuts, for that matter) is incomprehensible. What horrible chain of events and circumstances makes someone like Numbnuts? Nothing takes away his responsibility for his actions, but the reasons for why he’s like he is just don’t come together in my head. I’ve worked with adolescent psych patients, and adults with trauma issues, and while they had dysfunctional coping skills, they weren’t a risk to anybody. I guess that’s good I don’t ‘get it’, and I really don’t spend a lot of time thinking about why he’s a violent sociopath, but when I get stuff regarding parole issues, I do think about it. What makes a monster? I remember his sister as being sweet and young (she was 19 when I babysat her son). I’d heard she had some minor drug busts with minimal amounts of pot, but nothing dangerous, and I never saw her wasted. She was a hard worker as a department store housekeeper. She did the best she could for the baby. She and Numbnuts were raised in the same house. She did say that he’d always been the ‘black sheep’ of the family, and I got the idea that he had a sizable juvenile record before hitting the adult prison system. As an adult, his crimes got more ‘personal’ and more violent; I’m glad that his wife- bizarre as she is for marrying him- didn’t get visibly damaged (sounds like her psyche is already trashed). Or worse. He was picked up before he left a body behind.
He may have gotten a 60-year sentence for raping and beating me…but I also got a life sentence that day he assaulted me. It’s not over after the courts get done. It goes on and on, and every time something comes up about parole, or a violation of parole (arrest warrants issued), I am notified. That’s how I want it for my own protection. But it does take a toll. I’m reminded of everything he did to me during those six hours. Speaking out helps me, and I hope in some way it helps others. I survived that day for a reason. I believe that things happen for a reason (Romans 8:28). Maybe I can at least let someone else know they’re not alone.