Eating Disorders and Suicide

This time of year stirs up memories of my first year at the University of Illinois (Champaign-Urbana campus).  I’d arrived there with anorexia well entrenched, after losing 45 pounds in about 6 weeks while working at a church summer camp as  a nature counselor.  I didn’t want to get to college ‘fat’.  And I didn’t (though I thought I was grotesquely huge), but I was already a slave to the eating disorder (ED) voice in my head that made eating absolute hell.  People who haven’t crossed the line to an actual eating disorder don’t get it. I don’t expect them to- and I’m thankful they don’t know what it’s like to have a war in their heads over the number of curds of cottage cheese that are ‘acceptable’.  Yeah- it gets pretty weird.

By the beginning of the Spring semester, and returning from Christmas break, I was a mess. Being home for the holidays had been very difficult- I’d done what I could to avoid being around family by working at the University during a missions conference (‘Urbana ’81’).  Ironically, I worked in the food service area. But I had to be at home at some point (and in Florida with my parents for Christmas itself- that was a battle I lost).  Trying to hide an active eating disorder and starving/purging isn’t easy- and caused even more havoc in my mind.  I didn’t return to school at all well.  I’ve never been clinically depressed unless I’ve been starving/malnourished.  And I was a mess when I got back to my dorm.

I’d been seeing a therapist since I had arrived on campus the fall of 1981, as my resident director, resident assistant, and dorm-mates had found me wearing 6 pairs of socks and a winter coat in late August in central Illinois… humidity with the heat was probably stifling- but I was freezing.  The RD could actually feel the cold coming through the socks. SO she called 911 and I was hauled off. I was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa the next morning, and ‘ordered’ to start therapy or leave school.  I had no clue what to think about therapy, but I knew that going home wasn’t an option. It would mean I’d failed.  SO I went to therapy.

That therapist ( a very nice youngish woman) probably never heard me say much more than “I don’t know”- and I didn’t !  I had absolutely no insight, and no clue what could have gone on in my past to lead to the eating disorder.  By the Spring semester of 1982, I was really falling apart, and had a plan to kill myself.  My roommate had moved out long before (because I was too QUIET !!), so I could be isolated for quite a while before anybody would have noticed I’d been missing.  I had planned to take the tranquilizers (Thorazine- supposed to chill me out enough that I didn’t care if I ate) I’d been given at the university health system pharmacy,  and lock myself in my room, IN my closet (with the keys), and just wait.   I’d become fairly resigned to the idea that I wasn’t going to  live all that long with the anorexia (which had included periodic bingeing at that point, and daily purging via 40 laxatives spread out throughout the day), so it was more about just dealing with the inevitable.  I didn’t really want to die– I just didn’t know how to get out of the ED.  I felt trapped, overwhelmed, ashamed, and hopeless.

The emotional pain had hit the tipping point.  For some reason (like wanting to live maybe?), I spilled my guts to my therapist, who promptly had me escorted to the university health system (via the University Fire Department….. subtle), where I stayed until arrangements could be made to have me shipped to Forest Hospital in Des Plaines, IL.   It was a nut house.  Back then, there were no eating disorder ‘treatment centers’… if you had a nutty problem, you went to the nut house. That in and of itself was terrifying, but I was even more afraid of facing my parents- and being a disappointment- so a longtime adult friend and her daughter (former babysitter) came to get me…once the blizzard passed, some 3-4 days later.  The therapist and health center folks had wanted me out of there much sooner, but the weather was a big problem.  So, I waited at the health center ‘hospital’ as dorm friends came and went, both trying to cheer me up and also to say goodbye.

Suicide  attempt averted. That time. The next fall, I returned to the university, and the pressure build-up was almost instantaneous.  More on that later….

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4 thoughts on “Eating Disorders and Suicide

    • That’s pretty close. While I felt a sense of vague desperation, there was no real desire to not exist at all. I was just too stuck to know what to do, and didn’t have the communication skills to make therapy work. :/ It does get better ❤

  1. Hmm it appears like your site ate my first comment (it was super long) so I guess
    I’ll just sum it up what I wrote and say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog.
    I as well am an aspiring blog blogger but I’m still new to the whole thing. Do you have any suggestions for novice blog writers? I’d really appreciate it.

    • Just write from the heart, and the way you speak. I went nuts trying to follow all of the grammar rules (and I try to stick to most of them)- but write what you know about. I’ve only been at it since last August. 🙂 Just be you !

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