Those folks who have been watching the college basketball playoffs have undoubtedly seen the footage of Louisville sophomore Kevin Ware breaking his leg as he came down from jumping to block a shot by Duke. The break was pretty horrific, even from a distant video view. The bone came through the skin, the leg had an obvious unnatural ‘bend’, and the players on the bench were seen recoiling and turning away from what they saw. Today, there have been reports and a photo of Ware up on crutches after successful surgery; he is expected to fully recover.
In reading a particular comment ( from a friend of a friend on Facebook), the callousness was just beyond what is tolerable to me. I love the ‘block’ feature on Facebook- best to get cold, uncaring people out of anything I may read. The actual friend is very kind. The point that the icy hearted individual made was valid in some ways- many, many kids/people get hurt every day. That’s very true. But when he asked why he should care (and then said he didn’t) it just hit me wrong. I don’t have room for people like that, even in the periphery, of my life. True, many kids get hurt; many get hurt much more severely than Wade did. But why not be thankful for the positive prognosis of one who we all did hear about? Why is that such a ‘waste’? Why not care for the ones we have names for? Why not try a bit of compassion and gratitude for some good news once in a while? I’ve seen many, many severe injuries in the years I worked as an RN. It’s nice to hear that someone is going to be OK. I’m happy for the kid. Why is that so hard for some to grasp? Good news is a gift we can all appreciate, if we so choose. But some people just can’t see past their own noses.
This isn’t the first time I’ve been offended by this person’s seemingly minute view of humanity. But today, I erased him from my life by blocking him (who I only see in replies to someone I do care about). There isn’t room for those who simply don’t care about anything except how it effects them. He’s not the first. He won’t be the last. I don’t know him in person, so he’s no loss in my life. But I wonder what makes someone so cold. It’s sad. Maybe nobody showed him any compassion when he was in pain at some point. Or maybe he’s just a jerk… but most jerks have reasons for their behavior and outlook on life. I’ve blocked ‘family’ members who have added nothing but pain and/or negativity; someone I don’t know has no room in my life when they do the same.
One more way to increase positivity in my life is to delete the negative. That is a choice I can make to make my life better. It costs me nothing to care about someone I hear about; I don’t have to know them to be thankful for their good news. I can’t imagine just not caring. And I can’t imagine that blocking this person will be anything but good.