When I started Nutrisystem 80 days ago, I had some nagging concerns about how to lose the weight I’d gained on chemo without going nuts and ending up in a bonafide eating disorder relapse. I’m not sure that concern ever goes away. I haven’t done any purposeful eating disorder behaviors since 1996-1997 (it was a process), and no purging since March 1996. Yet, there were so many years of my life, starting at a young age, when disordered eating was the only way I knew how to eat at all. It was what I was taught.
I’ve lost 43 pounds in 80 days. That’s faster than the advertised 1-2 pounds/week on the Nutrisystem literature (and any healthy weight loss plan). I’m not purposely eating less than I’m supposed to- and when I tally the calories, fat, carbs, fiber, and protein (which is more for diabetic/insulin reasons), I’m not compelled to cut back to crazy low numbers. There have been days when I don’t eat all I’m supposed to, but it’s because of headaches and the accompanying queasiness. I think some of that is because of the sucralose/Splenda in some of the Nutrisystem products (they don’t use aspartame/Equal)- so this week I called Customer Service, and was able to arrange to send back all of the Cinnamon Buns and some of the Honey Wheat Bagels (had to do with the 30-day exchange policy). They are sending me some Granola Cereal- no artificial sweeteners, low fat, and good protein (for granola). I really liked those Cinnamon Buns. 😦 But, I’ve had a headache every day since I started eating those with the last order. It has been a constant 6 day headache.
I’m still not sure why bagels need an artificial sweetener. Sure, the yeast needs honey or sugar, but adding sweetness just to make them sweeter? Yuck. They did still work with the salmon spread I came up with, but I’ll just have to find a store bagel that has good fiber and protein. But I digress.
I still have the body image issues. When I look in the mirror, I don’t see 43 missing pounds. I know my clothing fits differently (or in the case of 3 pairs of shorts, just falls off). I know the ‘numbers’ say I’m losing weight, but I don’t ‘feel’ it. My ‘old’ pajama bottoms fit again. My t-shirts fit better. My bra doesn’t make me look like the Michelin Man. But, I’m still waiting for my rings to fit again. And I’m waiting to see the change in my appearance. I took ‘before’ photos, so I will have something to compare myself to. I hope I can see it.
I’m not sure how to see myself normally. That part of the recovery puzzle never did work itself out. My dad asked me how much I plan to lose, and I don’t know. I told him I’d know when I got there (which can be a scary thing to think about- those with eating disorders are never happy when they reach one goal). I have a BMI number I want to get under, but it’s not anywhere near unhealthy thinness. When I was in the worst part of any given eating disorder period, I thought that the low 70s was a perfectly reasonable weight to aim for, at 5 feet 6 inches tall. I do know that anything below a BMI of 18 isn’t good- and for my body type, I don’t want to go below a BMI that is much higher than that. I know I have to be careful not to keep looking for some ‘magic’ number- and that I have to be vigilant about not getting into numbers games in my head.
To look at me now, ‘eating disorders’ (the ‘thin’ ones) are not what someone on the outside would even consider being a issue of mine , but I’ve been nearly 100 pounds heavier than I am now, and 70 pounds lighter during my adult life (18 or older). Between the relapses with anorexia, I’ve also been a compulsive undereater- people don’t talk about that. It’s not quite as bad as the internal demands of anorexia, but the focus on food and weight is still abnormal enough to affect functioning around food and eating; social events with food are very difficult, even though the diagnostic criteria for anorexia aren’t all there.
I ate a lot when I first moved away from home in 1985, and no longer had the imposed restriction of my mom, or the original ‘diagnosed’ anorexia onset in 1981. I’d been through inpatient psych hospitalization, and was ‘allowed’ to eat. That led to unhealthy eating, and what I don’t really call bingeing, but more like finally being set free from a noose of thinness obsession. My metabolism had to be messed up from so many years of dieting and starvation, which just made the weight pile on faster. “Normal” intake equaled weight gain. I got morbidly obese- which is like a death nell for someone who has been anorexic/bulimic. I relapsed a couple of times before the last one in 1995. Each time got worse faster. The last one was really bad. But only those who saw what I was doing knew that I was in trouble. To most people, I was too overweight to even consider that I was starving. I lost 50 pounds in 3 months, and a total of 120 in about a year. Some of that was from diabetes before it was diagnosed (weight loss is a symptom of undiagnosed high blood sugars), and then after the diagnosis I became very obsessed.
Now, I’ve lost 43 pounds in 80 days. I let my doctor know (that’s definitely not something I would have done during the ED years). I know that the huge reduction in insulin is probably also a factor in how ‘easy’ this has been (when nothing I did before Nutrisystem helped budge the chemotherapy weight). I am eating more protein than before NS. The glycemic index of the food is much better. Even the ‘junk food’ on NS is formulated to be healthy. The Cheese Puffs, cookies, pretzels, and candy bars are tasty enough to order after I reach my goal weight. It’s hard to find 8 gms of protein and 6 gms of fiber in 1 ounce of regular pretzels.
I still have a problem with feeling full. I loathe that feeling. There is a lot to eat on NS. Most days, I don’t get it all in, but it’s not about the numbers game- it’s about feeling really uncomfortable. Gas-X has become its own food group. On ‘headache days’ (whether from sucralose or not- I have chronic headaches), it’s hard to pack in every meal. But on days when I don’t have the headaches or other pain, I like the NS food. NS food is quite good for ‘diet food’. I go off plan now and then and have restaurant food (and it hasn’t affected my weight loss). Some people on NS (per the discussion boards) must stay very rigid so they don’t end up in long binge cycles- kind of like alcoholics can’t have a drop of booze. I understand that from my years of working drug/alcohol rehab, but I have to be less obsessive, and go ‘off grid’ now and then to keep some sort of balance with the real world.
One of my other reasons for wanting to lose weight (besides the chemo weight) is that I’ll be 50 years old later this year. I didn’t want to hit that milestone at such an unhealthy weight. I want to stack the odds in my favor for the ‘senior years’ (geez, I’ll get my AARP card soon- when did THAT happen?) 😮 . I plan to eat restaurant food on my 50th birthday in November, and I can pretty well guarantee there won’t be a carrot on the plate 😀 And I will have cake. I don’t normally enjoy restaurants (mostly from the heat intolerance and dysautonomia), but I’ve been told the sky is the limit by my dad, since a 50th birthday doesn’t come around but once. I don’t feel like I’m almost 50… no husband, kids, etc- I guess I bypassed some of the other milestones in life, and have a different frame of reference for a lot of things. But, I don’t want to be fat when I turn 50.
So, I’m doing well on Nutrisystem, but I don’t think I’ll ever feel like a ‘normal’ eater. I think that the risk of anorexia is always there once it’s ever taken hold. It takes over very subtly at first, and then everything crashes and burns. Being aware of this has been helpful. The ultimate goal of being healthy has surpassed the desire to be ‘skinny’. That part of my brain has finally grown up. But the part of my brain that remembers the horrible years of torment from anorexia, bulimia, and other variations of those doesn’t want to get ‘close enough’ to the edge. Ever. It has scarred me in many respects. I guess that’s probably good. Now to get rid of the rest of this unhealthy weight, and then maintain it like a ‘normal’ person. I’m more than half-way to my random goal, set when I started NS (I had to put something down) but people adjust them once they reach their original goals all the time. I’ll just have to see what feels right.